you need to listen to this.

i just listened to a message by ed gungor.
all about living our lives really loving God.
i think it will help you, here's the link

my conclusion based on it:
live every day focused on loving God, don't worry about the trophies in life, live your life loving God and every day will be special, when the trophies(cool big events) happen they'll be the cherry on the top of the goodness of a life spent with God.

i love ed gungor's message titles

"What I Hate Most About Christianity"

click the link to check it out and take a listen.

if you want more browse around that blog, it's the whole archive of his messages.
another fun one is "What To Do When Sheep Happens"

those are some good ingredients.